7 Proven Ways To Get Over Your Old Flame Fast
Breakups are like food poison because they can cause you to be in a fetal position for days. Going from coupledom to splitsville is a very tough decision. With all the things that the two of you have in common, it’s not an easy process to get over him/her. Even if he/she cheated on you, it could still be very hard to erase those memories to help you move on with your life.
But, no matter how painful it is, you have to close that chapter of your life so you can start a new one. It’s not easy. It’ll never be. But there are ways to help you get back in the game.
1. Remove things that remind you of him/her
You have to accept the fact that your ex is gone and what you’ve left are pieces of him/her. Even if you’re not that sentimental, pretty sure you’ve saved something that would remind you of your ex. To help you move on then, you must throw away those things. However, you don’t have to burn them all together. All you have to do is put them all in one box and place the box somewhere where you can reach it when you’re able to look at those things without the negative emotions that you currently have.
2. Don’t contact your ex
It’ll be difficult not to communicate with your ex but you must avoid contacting him/her. You must seriously consider going cold turkey. Staying in touch with your old flame won’t do any good to your broken heart. The solution? Delete his/her number from your phonebook. Stop calling/texting him/her. Then, unfriend your ex on Facebook, unfollow him/her on Twitter, etc. This is essential for a clean break. In this way, you can avoid seeing your ex with a strange person in his/her profile picture.
3. Avoid your mutual friends and the places he/she frequents
This is one of the best ways to avoid the temptations of seeing him/her. Yes, you need to make some sacrifices and that includes not seeing your mutual friends as you can’t avoid not asking about your ex. It’s not healthy for your broken heart. No matter how rude it is, you must avoid them or at least not talk about your ex when you bump into them.
Apart from avoiding your mutual friends, you must also avoid those favorite hang-out places that he/she loves. There’s a big chance he’ll/she’ll be there when you go there. It’s a small price to pay to help you obtain that peace of mind.
4. Reconnect with your buds
Now that you’re single, it’s the right time for you to hang out with your old friends whom you’ve left behind because of your ex. It’s one of the most rewarding things you can do to mend your heart. Travel with them if you must. It’ll be fun and therapeutic for your case.
5. Focus on the bad times
It’s a common thing to remember the things you’ve had with him/her. Ah, those quirky, funny ways he/she has. But before you go and fantasize about how good your life used to be when you were with him/her, snap out of it. Instead, remember those fights that you’ve had with your ex. Thing about his/her bad habits and his/her shady behavior. It’ll surely make you realize that dating him/her was a mistake.
6. Stay busy and motivated
It’s easier for you to think about him/her over and over again if you’re unmotivated. Thus, you’ve to force yourself to be distracted and stay busy. Start seeing other people and remain productive with your work. This will help you avoid thinking about that person too much, which will be helpful in your quest of moving on from that old life of yours.
7. Get revenge
No, not that kind of revenge. The best revenge that you can commit to help you get over him/her is to move on and live your life to the fullest. Don’t call him/her or dig into your email and read his/her past messages. By keeping your dignity intact, you can easily set your life to a new direction, which is the best way to finally get over him/her.
It’s not easy to let go of your ex. There are memories that’ll haunt you every now and then. That’s the reason you have to take all the power and motivation to turn away from the person who hurt you. No matter how difficult it is, you have to do it. You must always remember that you were happy before you met him/her. They say that “time heals all wounds” so you can be happy again. You just have to wait.